The odd colleague leaving for pastures new is one thing, but a pattern of leaving cards, collections, and updated LinkedIn profiles can leave you feeling depressed and uncertain about your future. When one departure seems to trigger the next, you may be left wondering who is next and where it will end. Even if a move isn’t part of your immediate plan, it’s natural to consider your position or to glumly entertain the prospect of becoming the last man/woman standing.
When your team is disintegrating around you, it can be hard to feel anything but despondent. Weighed down by a feeling of dread, it isn’t easy to envisage a bright future. If this resonates right now, then I feel for you. It sucks.
Each person has their own journey, yet no man is an island. The decisions and choices of one man or woman will naturally impact those he/she associates with, whether it’s intended or not. Others may have rocked the boat, but don’t let their actions sway your thoughts or behaviour. When the compass is swinging wildly, it isn’t easy to maintain your true North, but stand firm, reaffirm your needs and career goals, and stay faithful to those.
The sinking ship is a horrible place, but a considered response is more beneficial than a hot-headed reaction. The grass may suddenly seem greener, but reality check your yearning against your own needs and targets. What’s right for one person isn’t necessarily right for the next, and better for them doesn’t mean better for you. If you haven’t already, read Sundar Pichai’s cockroach theory, then ask yourself these questions before deserting:
Am I in the right place to achieve my career plan?
Is this the right time for me to move on, professionally and personally?
What issues will I face with the departure of experienced colleagues?
What new opportunities will arise from a newly-shaped team?
What do my remaining team need me to be and do? Can I step up and fill these new expectations?
Can I grow from this experience, professionally and personally?
Only you know your own mind, only you can decide what is best for you and your career, but bear in mind that nothing lasts forever. This unpleasantness will pass, and with change comes opportunity. This could be the new beginning that you or your team needs, so give it your all and see what comes.
When team members are no longer committed to your team, it’s better that they go and that the loyal core wave them off with a light heart. New blood can pump new ideas and reinvigorate team life. With new members plugging the gaps, you may find yourself plotting a new or better course, which will help you achieve your goals.